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A Good One

Dig this column the late Ron Fimrite once wrote about his old man for Sports Illustrated. A friend e-mailed me about it, said he was 14 when he read it and it made such an impression he tore it out of the magazine and kept it in his wallet:

Then, inevitably, we drifted apart. No, that’s not it; our split was a lot more like atomic fission. The shrinks say this is perfectly normal, that the son must metaphorically slay the father in order to live his own life. But as close as we had been, our breakup was pretty painful for both of us. Suddenly, Trux and I couldn’t agree on anything. His politics seemed to me to have moved overnight from New Deal liberalism to somewhere to the right of Calvin Coolidge. The very man who had put food in my mouth during the Great Depression now looked to me like some sort of Babbitt. For his part, I was headed straight for hell in a handbasket. I didn’t know the meaning of a dollar, and I insisted upon living in San Francisco, a city that, he felt, made Sodom and Gomorrah look like Peoria and Waukegan. The bay that separates Oakland and San Francisco might as well have been an ocean. We had even lost our shared interest in sports. He was an Athletics fan; I was for the Giants. He loved Al Davis’s Oakland Raiders; I was a 49ers man. We didn’t like the same movies. He wouldn’t read the books I sent him, most of which cruelly portrayed the American businessman as either misguided or pathetic. I turned down his suggestions that I “grow up” and buy a house in the suburbs. It was not a good time for Trux and me.

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1 Chyll Will   ~  May 6, 2010 3:49 pm

It's very interesting to me... I spent my whole childhood loving my Dad and I hardly knew the man except for what he did when he came to visit us. By the time I was old enough to establish a relationship with him on an adult basis, he was already on his way out, and died suddenly when I was 20. I spent the years afterwards trying to get to know the man for who he really was; some of it not pleasant at all. I missed the whole "slaying your father" thing because I never had time enough with him to know him that well, never mind grow to resent him. If I did, and I know I did, it was because I didn't know him, and that was mainly his choosing. Perhaps it was for the best. All I know is, some people have no choice but to be their own man...

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